By Jenner | June 14, 2011 at 03:24 PM EDT | No Comments
Insert the biggest a**hole to date in the history of the Bachelorette, Bentley Williams. I'm not saying there hasn't been some shady ones in the past but this dude takes the cake and licks the bowl. It's one thing to come on the show and realize you don't have feelings for a woman. It is a whole other level of prickness to state that to everyone else, make a mockery of it, and towards her act as though you truly care. I'm gonna go ahead and say that this is not this guy's first tango with deception. The level of respect he carries for women is so obvious, zero. The best part, he is raising a daughter. WOW.
I will give this douche a smidge of credit, like maybe a splinter size. Ninety nine percent of even the chosen ones end up as scumbags. At least this jacka** has been a piece of crap from the jump and didn't let her find it out after there was a ring on it.
With that being said, this is where I blame us as females. Why do we, as women, choose a guy that we have been warned about and probably know isn't a good idea?! Is it that we hope that this time he will be different with us?! Insert straight up STUPIDITY and F U Cinderella!! Cinderella's whole story is a such a lie. LOL. We hold onto these fairy tales as little girls and believe in their outcomes when we should be looking at the reality that surrounds us. Real relationships have of ups and downs and hopefully end up on the other side together and still respecting one another. Cinderella had ups and downs with two random hos and some dude made that all go away, COME ON!!
We've probably all made choices in love that may not have come from a clear head or heart and looking back, if we were truly honest with ourselves, we probably knew better. On the flip side, it is those same choices that take you to where you are suppose to be. The problem is when you continue to choose the Bentley you are not learning. Instead of moving forward, you're treading water and looking for someone to throw you a life preserver while your Bentley cracks open another cold one and circles you in his boat. Oh and did I mention there were other women in his boat?! Just gonna throw that out there. Lesson: You can only tread water for so long before you drown.
I am passing this knowledge on from a place of understanding not from a place of preaching. Trust me, there was a time when I would have given anything to be on a boat with T-Pain instead of training to beat Michael Phelps in the Olympics. If you are completely stripped of what you believe you are building the right way, it is to help you realize that you were completely building YOURSELF the wrong way. I've said it before and I will repeat it every day of my life to anyone that will listen, trust THE MOST when things DO NOT work out. From jobs, to relationships, to friendships, even to putting up a light fixture (which had to be done three times because of me, I love you lol), there is a reason when it doesn't work. You have to trust in a greater plan. What is meant to work the right way cannot be built the wrong way if it is to succeed. Get yourself right first and the greater plan will fill you up more than you could ever imagine. From the littlest moments to the biggest events in your life, your cup will be full. Most importantly your prince will come in, not to fix your life but to enhance what you have fixed.